Invitations & RSVP Etiquette
How you invite guests to your wedding sets the tone for the entire event. Modern Wedding Etiquette has changed when it comes to wedding invitations. It is still quite acceptable to send a formal written invitation. However, an electronic invitation is now also acceptable. It is still important to follow clear invitation etiquette. Times have changed, but proper wording and timing remain essential.How to Address Wedding Invitations
- Use full names and proper titles for formal weddings.
- For informal weddings, first names and relaxed language are acceptable.
- Double-check spelling, especially of last names and addresses.
- Married, engaged, and cohabiting couples should be invited as a pair.
- You’re not obligated to give every guest a plus-one, especially if you’re on a budget.
- Include an RSVP deadline that is 4–5 weeks before the wedding.
- Provide clear return instructions or use an online RSVP platform. Give guests a few different options of how to respond.
- Gently follow up with guests who haven’t responded by the deadline.
Guest Modern Wedding Etiquette: What Couples Need to Know
As a couple, you can help guide your guests with clear communication and thoughtful planning.What to Wear to a Wedding- Dress codes like cocktail attire, black tie optional, or semi-formal should be included on your website or invitation.
- Use seasonal examples: a summer garden wedding may call for lighter fabrics, while a fall barn wedding leans toward rustic chic.
Bridal Party & Family Etiquette
- The maid of honor helps with planning, attends dress fittings, and delivers a toast.
- The best man helps the groom, plans the bachelor party, and gives a speech.
- Bridesmaids and groomsmen assist with events, support the couple, and help on the wedding day.
- Some couples are opting out of having a wedding party. This can be due to cost, drama, personal preference, or simplicity.
- The couple pays for the venue, food, and entertainment.
- The bride’s family might host the ceremony.
- The groom’s family may host the rehearsal dinner.
- Talk openly and early.
- Assign roles that honor each parent.
- Consider including stepparents in the processional or seating charts thoughtfully.
Gift Etiquette
- Offer a variety of price points.
- Include both practical and fun items.
- Register early—before sending invitations.
Tipping Etiquette: Who to tip at your wedding
Tipping wedding vendors is a gesture of appreciation that’s often overlooked during planning. Some tips are expected, while others are optional.
- Always check your contract—gratuity might already be included.
- Use labeled envelopes with cash for easy day-of distribution.
- Assign a planner, best man, or parent to distribute tips.
| Vendor | Suggested Tip | Notes |
| Caterers | $100-$300 depending on the total reception | Often included—check contract |
| Bartenders | $50–100 each or 10–15% of bar tab | Tip more for complex or extended service |
| Hair & Makeup Artists | 15–25% of the service total | Similar to salon tipping |
| Wedding Planner | $100–500 | Optional but appreciated for great service |
| Officiant | $50–100 or donation | Donate to house of worship if clergy |
| Photographer/Videographer | $50–200 per person | Optional if they own the business |
| DJ/Band | $50–150 per person | Especially if they stayed late or took requests |
| Delivery Staff | $10–20 each | Envelopes for florals, rentals, cake, etc. |
| Drivers | 15–20% | Often required by transportation services |
| Venue Staff | $50–100 each | Coat check, valet, restroom attendant |
Modern Wedding Etiquette
Social Media
- Ask guests not to post during the ceremony unless otherwise stated.
- Create a custom wedding hashtag and display it at the reception.
- Share your photos first.
Wedding Etiquette FAQs: Why Wedding Etiquette Still Matters: Modern Wedding Etiquette That Couples Need To Know.
Wedding Etiquette Still Matters: Modern Wedding Etiquette That Couples Need To KnowBe sure to save this post.Read The Ultimate Wedding Planning GuideFollow me on Pinterest:Get more wedding information at TheKnot.comDo you have to have a cake at your wedding?
No. Many couples are ditching the cake and instead offering cupcakes, donuts, pies, assorted desserts, or any other favorites. A small cake just for cutting and photos is becoming the norm at modern weddings.
What is the correct order of the wedding processional?
Traditionally: grandparents, parents, groom, wedding party, maid of honor, children, and finally the bride.
Can guests post photos during the ceremony?
Only if the couple allows it. Respect any requests for an unplugged ceremony and wait for the couple to share first.
Is it okay to have a virtual wedding?
Yes. Virtual weddings are still a modern, inclusive option—just be sure to provide clear streaming instructions to guests.
What should I do if I can’t attend a wedding last minute?
Notify the couple ASAP and send a gift with a note. Communication is key.
Can I bring kids if the invite doesn’t mention them?
If children’s names aren’t included, the event is likely adults-only. Respect the couple’s decision and arrange childcare.
Do you tip your wedding photographer?
Tipping is optional if they own the business, but appreciated if service exceeds expectations—typically $50–200.
Do you tip the wedding planner?
It’s optional but appreciated. A cash tip or thoughtful gift is appropriate.
Should you invite someone to the bridal shower but not the wedding?
This is generally considered poor etiquette unless it’s a workplace or surprise shower hosted by someone who does not know all of the bride’s family and friends.
How much should you spend on a wedding gift?
It depends on your relationship to the couple. Common range: $75–150
